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  • 2017 Review 2017 Review 22 December 2017 — Jessica Clarke — Blog

    What a year 2017 has been!
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  • Christmas offers no respite for domestic abuse victims or survivors. Christmas offers no respite for domestic abuse victims or survivors. 19 December 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    Christmas offers no respite for domestic abuse victims or survivors.

    How can you help and support victims and survivors.
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  • DARVO - Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender DARVO - Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender 07 November 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    DARVO refers to a reaction perpetrators of wrong doing may display in response to being held accountable for their behavior. DARVO stands for "Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender." The perpetrator or offender may Deny the behavior, Attack the individual doing the confronting, and Reverse the roles of Victim and Offender such that the perpetrator assumes the victim role and turns the true victim into an alleged offender.
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  • Are there Harvey Weinsteins in the church? Are there Harvey Weinsteins in the church? 31 October 2017 — Peter Grant — Blog

    The Harvey Weinstein story exemplifies many of the issues that we set up First Man Standing to address. Abuse is much wider that Hollywood or Westminster. The stories and statistics are hard to read, but force us to face up to the reality that violence against women happens “in churches too”.
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  • 10 Traits that Characterise the Abusive Mentality 10 Traits that Characterise the Abusive Mentality 24 October 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    ‘He had originally denied the assault but when presented with video evidence changed his plea to guilty.’
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  • Sexual Harassment - conducive context 12 October 2017 — Mandy Marshall — Blog

    Revelations about the sexual harassment from Hollywood Producer, Harvey Weinstein, have not shocked some circles. Why is this?
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  • How To Be a Friend to a Survivor of Abuse. 08 September 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    Christine explains why it was so hard for her to recognize the abuse she was experiencing . . .

    'The abuse got worse little by little so it increasingly became normal, until my ex destroyed every part of me.'

    But I passionately believe that it is everyday ordinary friends who can make the difference - become an awesome friend.
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  • Karma Nirvana Karma Nirvana 08 September 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    ​Karma Nirvana is a UK charity that supports victims (women and men) of honour based abuse and forced marriage. They also raise awareness and provide education particularly in secondary schools, colleges and universities. They lobby government and were instrumental in persuading Prime Minister David Cameron to criminalise forced marriage in 2014.
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  • Healthy Relationships: Predictors and Red Flags Healthy Relationships: Predictors and Red Flags 30 August 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    We all know the key elements of a good relationship: respect, honesty, and good communication. Most people think those elements are in place when they enter their relationships or get married. Yet we also know that a person demonstrating respect, honesty and good communication skills in their working life, for example, does not necessarily predict how that same person will behave in an intimate relationship.

    So this discussion will challenge us to consider observable inter-relational predictors, not just individual traits, when thinking about healthy long term relationships and to be able to identify red flags that may be causes for concern.
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  • Why is Gwen walking a 100K of the Thames Path for Restored? Why is Gwen walking a 100K of the Thames Path for Restored? 15 August 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    I was one of those who carried the shame and stigma until I came across Restored, through them, and with a church where I was supported, my life has quite literally been transformed. Looking back just 4 or 5 years I see a woman I hardly recognise.
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