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  • A Christian Survivors' Network A Christian Survivors' Network 24 September 2017 — Lucy — Blog

    A Christian Community for Survivors

    Female survivors of domestic abuse are at different stages of recovery, with different needs yet similar experiences.

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  • How To Be a Friend to a Survivor of Abuse. 08 September 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    Christine explains why it was so hard for her to recognize the abuse she was experiencing . . .

    'The abuse got worse little by little so it increasingly became normal, until my ex destroyed every part of me.'

    But I passionately believe that it is everyday ordinary friends who can make the difference - become an awesome friend.
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  • Christine's Story - Chap 2: The Escape 08 September 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Survivors’ stories

    All along I had a very strong sense that God was telling me:

    1.It won’t work out as you’ve planned

    2.It will be like a roller coaster ride in the dark - all you will be able to do is hold onto me with both hands.
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  • Christine's Story - Chap 1: The Realization 08 September 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Survivors’ stories

    The counsellor started to talk about the fact that my husband was using terms that abusive and controlling men use. Suddenly I saw it, I was shocked.
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  • Karma Nirvana Karma Nirvana 08 September 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    ​Karma Nirvana is a UK charity that supports victims (women and men) of honour based abuse and forced marriage. They also raise awareness and provide education particularly in secondary schools, colleges and universities. They lobby government and were instrumental in persuading Prime Minister David Cameron to criminalise forced marriage in 2014.
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  • Healthy Relationships: Predictors and Red Flags Healthy Relationships: Predictors and Red Flags 30 August 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    We all know the key elements of a good relationship: respect, honesty, and good communication. Most people think those elements are in place when they enter their relationships or get married. Yet we also know that a person demonstrating respect, honesty and good communication skills in their working life, for example, does not necessarily predict how that same person will behave in an intimate relationship.

    So this discussion will challenge us to consider observable inter-relational predictors, not just individual traits, when thinking about healthy long term relationships and to be able to identify red flags that may be causes for concern.
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  • I've Run Out of Fight I've Run Out of Fight 01 August 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    Recently BBC news highlighted a case where a man was jailed for 10 years for the manslaughter of his ex girlfriend after she killed herself as a ‘direct result’ of his coercive and controlling behaviour.

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  • What does it mean to be a good father? 14 June 2017 — Peter Grant — Blog

    Father’s Day is a chance to remember and honour our dads and the other men who have played a positive role in our lives. I want to turn this around to focus on our own role as fathers and to ask: What does it mean to be a good father?
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  • It might be nothing, but it could mean everything. It might be nothing, but it could mean everything. 26 May 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Blog

    A guide for people who think their friend, relative, neighbour or colleague may be in an abusive relationship.

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  • ​When churches don’t acknowledge abuse – and we have to leave. Paula's Story 25 April 2017 — Esther Sweetman — Survivors’ stories

    Many Christian women who are victims of domestic abuse end up having to leave their church.

    This blog looks at the issues regarding moving to a new church that I experienced – and three examples of God’s grace and love in enabling me to start afresh in a new fellowship.
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